As a huge fangirl, I find music to be a celebration, cathartic, and something that brings people together. In fact. there is nothing I like more then seeing one of my favorite bands in person, and meeting a new friend who LOVES the band almost as much as I do.
However, with having a band I love so much, there is just one thing that I find disappointing more then anything: finding out that, either the band as a whole, or someone in the band is an utter asshole.
Is this necessary?
To some bands, the answer is YES! Sometimes being a cunt is a part of the lifelong performance that musicians often find themselves involved in. And for the same reasons that you stay in an abusive relationship, you might love a band that treats you subhuman. While I can’t explain the asshattery here, I can give some tips on how to avoid being a jerk and why you should. Starting with this…
1. The music industry, especially certain scenes, are smaller then you think. Once word gets around about your jerk status, people may not wanna work with you, thus hurting your chances of booking that MAJOR tour, label, or whatever. No one wants to be responsible for a liability. Be humble and nice. Always.
2. You can be a dick on stage, but share your fucking weed with us afterwards. We get it, you gotta be cool when you’re up there. I can forgive your stage antics but only if its balanced out by your humane attitude in real life. Play your set with your back to the crowd? Sure. Pretend like we aren’t there? If Built to Spill did it, so can you. Spit blood and vomit at us, I’m super down. But please, let me hit your blunt afterwards.
3. Make sure you always check out other bands on the same bill as you. Nothing screams “entitled asshole” then not supporting other bands/acts you play with. Unless you are loading out during their set, you should make an EFFORT to see who else is coming up around the same time as you.
4. Lastly, DO NOT I repeat, DO NOT TREAT YOUR FANS BADLY!!! This should be a given, but I have heard HORROR stories about bands that are semi huge, acting like total dicks to their fans. Like going so far as to yell at them. Your fans help to make you, support you and basically, give you free press. Treat them well, and treat them as humans. End of story.